Hello Anastasiaweb! I would like to offer a success story for your members. In November of 1993, I e-mailed about 15 letters to women all around the world. I received many responses, one in particular arriving two months later from Russia written in broken English but full of warmth and sincerity. This began an exhilarating exchange of emails, then telephone conversations and faxes that culminated in a 15-day trip to Moscow last July, engagement, and then this past January, marriage. For this previously 40 year old single man, It has been a dream come true, and if somebody would have looked into my future just two short years ago and told me that something like this would have happened, my reply would have been something like, "sure, and I'm going to win the lottery too!"
But Galina and I did hit the jackpot, and we'd like to offer a few words of advice and encouragement to others pursuing a similar dream (especially to men involved with Russian women).
At the outset, search your heart and discover what your motivations and wants are. Then, make your intentions and hopes clear to the women early. Most Russian women take marriage, family and having children very seriously and are likely to view a man who is silent or evasive on these matters as immature or not serious.
Honestly describe your financial condition, current profession and prospects. My experience is that most Russian women are not grasping and materialistic, but they do want to be able to respect their husband as a breadwinner. They want reliability as much as riches.
Don't underestimate the language problem. You may be able to get around this during your letter writing. You might more or less manage it with the help of an interpreter when you actually meet. And sweet romance may seduce you into thinking that because you that are just so right for each other, you'll some how overcome this barrier, but don't be fooled. In our case, I took it upon myself to study Russian intensively for four months before my trip and sent Galina some money to help her learn English. This helped immeasurably when we met. But one year later our verbal communication is still quite limited, which requires daily patience and a big problem has been finding Galina good, local and affordable English instruction.
Bring your fiancee here in the spirit of a holiday and take things leisurely when she first arrives. Although she may truly want to marry you, it is very difficult for a Russian women to uproot herself from her country. Rushing her into marriage or crowding her with serious talk about your marriage plans too soon can scare the life out of her.
Use good judgment when trying to decide weather to arrange to meet several women or just one. In my case, I turned down invitations from several women so I could spend two weeks just with Galina. But we had exchanged more than 40 letters and faxes, hundreds of emails, talked on the phone at length, and I was fortunate enough to know an American in Moscow who could vouch for her charm and character. We knew quite a bit about each other before we met. However, if you have not written very much to any one particular woman, it is probably advisable to arrange to see more than just one, but structure your trip so that you can spend at least one or two weeks with your favorite.
Finally, Galina urges you not to spend so much time watching American football on TV.
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